What this pattern looks like
Some adults never inherited a durable neighbourhood, school-parent circle, faith community, or long-term workplace group. That is a structural absence, not evidence that you are bad at friendship.
Your Friendship Audit result
The Never Had a Village
There was no ready-made local structure to lose, so “reconnect” was never useful advice.
This is a situation, not a personality type.
Why the usual advice fails
Advice built around calling old friends or reviving a former circle assumes a village already existed. Starting with open-ended socialising also gives strangers no reason to return.
The format that fits
A recurring board-game table
The game supplies rules, turns, and a reason for everyone to be there. Repetition can build a village without requiring anyone to manufacture chemistry on demand.
Your first useful step
Choose a beginner-friendly table and commit to learning names, not winning or making a best friend on night one.
Turn the result into a date
Find one nearby group you could attend three times.
Your first attendance is free. Member names are never publicly browsable.